aiya... i meet before this type la. is not she hurt before thats why she dun wan try. is she dun love you enough thats why she dun wan try. if she love u enough no matter how badly she kena hurt before she also can try one.
probably is u love her and she like u then get along well. make her love you by giving her the right feelings. not just be like a friend. you have to do more
Yes , I'm trying to do more ...
But my situation is rather weird in the sense that we're always surrounded by this group of friends ... which is actually quite hindering at times .
Originally posted by Typically:Yes , I'm trying to do more ...
But my situation is rather weird in the sense that we're always surrounded by this group of friends ... which is actually quite hindering at times .
Hindering ? LOL !
To her, that's exactly wat she wants.. to be surrounded by friends to HINDER advances by annoying boys like you.
Get a grip, you're starting to sound like a pervert.
Whatcha gonna do , rape her when you are alone with her ? Eww.
Originally posted by Typically:Yes , I'm trying to do more ...
But my situation is rather weird in the sense that we're always surrounded by this group of friends ... which is actually quite hindering at times .
From what i can see, quite high chance to fail.... u sure she like you or not ?
Originally posted by jojobeach:Hindering ? LOL !
To her, that's exactly wat she wants.. to be surrounded by friends to HINDER advances by annoying boys like you.
Get a grip, you're starting to sound like a pervert.
Whatcha gonna do , rape her when you are alone with her ? Eww.
nono i think you misunderstood me . group of friends actually refered to the group that we always hang out together ... Clique ?
Just that , the thing about this group is that they really really enjoy bitching about people . Even people within the group itself cannot escape from the bitching . So it's hindering .
AND I do have times alone with her . In fact , plenty
Yes , she did like me before but that was a almost a year ago ...
Question is now. Now she like you or not. Got gao bai to her or not ?
Originally posted by Typically:
nono i think you misunderstood me . group of friends actually refered to the group that we always hang out together ... Clique ?Just that , the thing about this group is that they really really enjoy bitching about people . Even people within the group itself cannot escape from the bitching . So it's hindering .
AND I do have times alone with her . In fact , plenty
Yes , she did like me before but that was a almost a year ago ...
Ah.. so the hindering is the bitching of you to her yes ?
You afraid all your dirty secrets gets to her ears doncha ?
Well, ever heard of the saying " Ya don't shit in yer own backyard?"
Are ye one of em taking turns with the girls in yer group and passing them around after ye done ?
She did like you before.. but she ain't now. Tha's the cold hard truth brother.
i think
what u need to do now
is to keep a bit of a distance
dont go pressuring her ah
say simi
are u rdy now?!
and dont treat her soooo nice like she alr ur gf
Got gao bai ..
Yes , She has feelings for me ... but let me reiterate again , it's because of her problems . It's really been a trauma for her . She told me herself also that she wasn't ready to commit due to her problems .
I'm not trying to press her to , Just giving her the space and time she needs and being there for her .
GO FOR IT MAN!!! SHE NEEDS SOME 'THERAPHY' otherwise she turn lesbian or butch how
Da jia be friend friend lah, you need me i here, if i find another Gf then bye bye. Since u like me, but dont want commit. Then theres no reason for me to keep kenna that hot/cold treatment mah. Dont so obsessed lah, see the obvious wall then still bump into it.
Originally posted by ChoCoChips:i think
what u need to do now
is to keep a bit of a distance
dont go pressuring her ah
say simi
are u rdy now?!
and dont treat her soooo nice like she alr ur gf
Don't treat her soo nice like my gf is probably 1 area I should improve on . Mind explaining the rationale behind this ... ?
AND from my knowledge it didhurt her to the point that she almost became lesbian . But it happened before we even met or knew each other .
TS,
u shldnt actually see ur group of old frens as a hinderance.
infact, it would play to your advantage if you react properly in the right situations.
being around old frens should make it easier for you to be yourself which is a plus point for a girl who says that she cant trust guys because then she will see you for the guy that u are, and not someone just pretending to be someone you're not in order to get her attention.
and it's makes things easier for her as well because then she wouldnt be stressing herself time after time about going out with a guy exclusively as you guys are hanging out together in a group.
it will take time for girls to warm up to your feelings because they don't feel the same way right of the bat unless you look like someone whom she idolises.
if you're really affectionate and care for her, your frens will see it too. friends play a big part when u became attracted to someone in the group. better still if her best friend(s) is also in the group, cause you can ask them to sound her out. If your friends feel that you are genuine at heart, surely they'll put in a word or two for you. of course that's if you also doing things right and not continuously pressing her to accept your advances.
that's really all i can say, cause so far my females friends have complained only about how insensitive a guy is to their feelings when they start wanting to be more than just friends.
peace out.
Originally posted by Typically:Don't treat her soo nice like my gf is probably 1 area I should improve on . Mind explaining the rationale behind this ... ?
AND from my knowledge it didhurt her to the point that she almost became lesbian . But it happened before we even met or knew each other .
Some time when you too obsessed with a girl or love a girl too much, the girl will feel uneasy or somehow play hard to get. Da jia be friend first. Dont keep offering your hot face only to stick it at her cold butt.
Originally posted by j03r5:TS,
u shldnt actually see ur group of old frens as a hinderance.
infact, it would play to your advantage if you react properly in the right situations.
being around old frens should make it easier for you to be yourself which is a plus point for a girl who says that she cant trust guys because then she will see you for the guy that u are, and not someone just pretending to be someone you're not in order to get her attention.
and it's makes things easier for her as well because then she wouldnt be stressing herself time after time about going out with a guy exclusively as you guys are hanging out together in a group.
it will take time for girls to warm up to your feelings because they don't feel the same way right of the bat unless you look like someone whom she idolises.
if you're really affectionate and care for her, your frens will see it too. friends play a big part when u became attracted to someone in the group. better still if her best friend(s) is also in the group, cause you can ask them to sound her out. If your friends feel that you are genuine at heart, surely they'll put in a word or two for you. of course that's if you also doing things right and not continuously pressing her to accept your advances.
that's really all i can say, cause so far my females friends have complained only about how insensitive a guy is to their feelings when they start wanting to be more than just friends.
peace out.
Hi there , thank you for your enlightenment . It really made alot of sense to me . Her best friends are within this group and I would say that they all have positive and negative opinions about me so it isn't easy .
As for TTFU , I go argee with what you say . But I feel that she's starting to take me for granted ...
I have to admit that it's mentally exhausting to have things like these dragging on for so long . But I won't give up because I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and I'm very confident of that .
Originally posted by Typically:
Hi there , thank you for your enlightenment . It really made alot of sense to me . Her best friends are within this group and I would say that they all have positive and negative opinions about me so it isn't easy .
As for TTFU , I go argee with what you say . But I feel that she's starting to take me for granted ...
I have to admit that it's mentally exhausting to have things like these dragging on for so long . But I won't give up because I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and I'm very confident of that .
Then good loh, if you feel you can tahan till the end, can even tahan if she reject u then go ahead. But from what you posted, seems like chances not too big, since her friends also got negative comments of you. Not so easy to change people opinion de leh..... But okay lah as long as be friend, dont zai yi so much, you wont get hurted as bad.
Tui yi bu hai kuo tian kong.
Yup , I know it's hard to change people opinions about me .
Does anybody know of the signs when she startings taking me for granted ?
Less talk with u, less msg u, less yue hui solo, etc
Originally posted by Typically:Yup , I know it's hard to change people opinions about me .
Does anybody know of the signs when she startings taking me for granted ?
Whats the point for pin pointing signs of being taken for granted ?
Do you give hoping to get ? Or do you give for the sake of giving ?
How can you tell when she's not taking you for granted ?
If you want to be calculative.. then this kind of girl still healing from her past hurts ain't right for you. They are a long hard road to home. And the efforts you put in for the next few months/years may not reap you the rewards you seek at the end of the day.
Look for the ones who are ready to be in a committed relationship.
Originally posted by Typically:Don't treat her soo nice like my gf is probably 1 area I should improve on . Mind explaining the rationale behind this ... ?
AND from my knowledge it didhurt her to the point that she almost became lesbian . But it happened before we even met or knew each other .
i dunno
mebbe if u too nice
she'll feel obliged to reciprocate ur feelings or what
or feel the stress
i guess la.
i ish noob!
TS,
instead of keep focusing on her sad past, why not say focus on the present?
(her wounds will heal with time, dun worry)
focus on making the relationship between u and her pleasant & comfortable
put her welfare 1st in ur heart and dun expect anything in return
see to it that she is happy and if she feels down, just say or do something to make her feel better
make sure all these come from ur heart
maybe she finds u damn boring!!!!!thinks u should bring her out to buffet restaurant and eat until yer hearts content!!!!all the weird food with weird names and alaskan crabs......by end of buffet u would still be smooching alaskan crabs....to hell with da gal!!!!!go for alaskan crabs that taste like coconut strangely!!
after buffet....remeber to go shopping at takashimaya and kinokuniya bookshop,,,,,,if she still find it boring.....................goto casino!!!all the bright lights and marina square area will make life so interesting!!!
next day monday go back to werk....no more free time.
Originally posted by Typically:Hi guys , I've been trying to woo this girl for about 6 months now but she doesn't wants to get in a relationship because of her failed relationships in the past . She said that she had already lost trust in guys and relationships .
We've been quite open about it , and I told her that I'll be with her all the way through .
I was thinking if any of you can propose methods or ways so that she can regain back this trust ?
From what I know , she was hurt very badly in her past relationships .
Is there a phobia of getting into relationships ?
Personally , I can get along with her very very well ... but she isn't sort of my girlfriend yet (Not official)
Can I have your advices please
After reading, and soooooooo, wat seems to be the problem?
U asked, she said no... U told her u'll be with her all the way through until her wounds heal...
Sooo, are u tired of waiting? or scared that even after more time she still say no?
Hi Ts, i am new to this forum here but if you may i like to give you my take on your situation. Basically your last post ended off with signs taking you for granted. Actually there are signs displayed but from experience, the most important signs you got to look out for is what your gut feeling is telling you.
People have acknowledge that a female's instinct/ sixth sense is very accurate but honesty, guys' gut feeling are more or less on the spot too. In-fact, when our ancestors roam the earth without today modern technologies, gut-feeling is one of the thing that help them to survive. When you feel, something is not right, you got to ask yourself or bring in friends to help you. Reason being, often the guy is too blinded by the beauty of the girl to make rational decision. Yes, personally, i agree that "beauty" is a drug.
The fundamental question you should be asking too is that, " In this "relationship, is she in control now , or are you in control ? " More often or not, guys feel extremely miserable as no longer can they play a part in the relationship. They fall into the wait for the girl's action and react phase. I been through this so i understand the shit feeling of waiting for someone or someone's reply.
What you should be looking for is the female interest level in you. for the sake of the readers here, the details are in this link. http://sixguysataprataplace.blogspot.com/2010/01/exploring-planet-venus.html
When you can ascertain her interest level in you, you won't even have to confess anymore. Seriously, correct me if i am wrong but most girls will help you when they liked you. When they have the feeling of : " Gee, what is this guy doing at this moment?" and stuff like that, this shows they have high interest in you.
Through horror stories and feedback from girls, i have also found out that it is always better to read the person action rather than their words. If the girl laugh at all your lamest jokes, make breakfast for you, wait for you so that you can accompany each other home, i tell you dude, even 3 blind mice can tell she is interested in you. Its so easy to say, i like you but i having problems with my ex or bla, bla , bla. Honestly , sometimes i think about it, if brad pitt were to ask her to be his gf, will she give all the reasons. I like to trust once again that, when girls likes you , they help you.
Alright i think i have written a tad too long and i need to stop here. However, in this topic, the learning is endless and because far too many times , the author of the blog have come across guys not knowing what to do with girls, they set up this blog, http://sixguysataprataplace.blogspot.com/ , hoping that now, at last , there is a place for guys to vent out their frustrations.
Take care dude. =)